Deep Hurt
Children and teens of divorce are
hurting. They no longer know the secure
bond of family security and their lives are changing rapidly.
Having to deal with divorced parents can sometimes also be much
harder than if one were to grieve their loss through death.
Some people, however, swing to
the opposite end by denying that it affects them. They try to
go on merrily in their lives projecting an image that they are
handling it well. The truth is, there is a world of difference
between what one experiences in a healthy family versus one that
is broken. It does not, however, mean gloom and doom for the rest
of your life. You can do something about it. The operative word
here is "do". This implies that you need to take time
to identify the feelings and thoughts that are running through
you. To ask all the questions you need to ask, and then allow
yourself to grieve through this loss. Only when you know what
you feel can you learn to overcome it, and move on with better
strength, positive thoughts and hope. Healing is necessary. Do
not shortchange yourself.
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