Communication With Your Teenager
Tips for Communicating with Your Teen
What Can You Do?
* Teens deserve respect, and adults should give it to them and
expect it from them. This includes a show of respect for their
friends. Never berate or belittle teens in front of their peers.
* Think about how often you ask teen-agers question and seek
* Understand that the bravado and boasting displayed by some
teens can be a cover-up for insecurity. That adolescent
boy or girl with the know-it-all attitude may be unsure of himself
or herself and in search of your guidance.
* Know it's never too early to talk. When should parents start
talking about "tough issues," like sex, violence,
drugs and respect? Experts, say the earlier the better. Because,
the reality is that if you don't, someone else will. The only
way you can ensure that your child knows what YOU want them to
about these issues is to tell them yourself.
* The little talks really add up. Don't focus on having really big meaningful
talks with your teens. Focus on having smaller talks - and try
to find everyday opportunities to talk at informal times. This
will encourage your child to tell you what's going on in their
lives and the tough issues they may be facing.
* Know your family values. Before
you begin to talk to your teen , ask your self a few questions.
Like how do you feel about these issues and what do you want your
kids to know? What are YOUR "family's values," your
religious beliefs, your learned lessons in life? What did you
learn from your parents that you want to pass along to your child?
This is important to do because it will make your job a lot easier
to do. Your values will give you the framework that you need in
order to help your child to understand why you feel strongly about
Opening Up & Talking