When Your Parents Fight
It is normal for parents to fight
with each other. These fights may be
about money, the future, or chores around the house. When parents
have a disagreement, that does not include yelling at each other
or raising their voices they are having an argument. When the
arguments get louder - they could be called fights. These fights
can be loud and things can be said that aren't the nicest - and
this can be scary for a kid or teen who is listening. Sometimes,
as a member of the family, a teen or
child may feel that they had some part in creating the fight between
the parents. It is important for children to know that these fights
and arguments are part of any healthy relationship.
What Does their Fighting Mean?
A teen or child may think that because
their parents yell and scream at each other and have a fight that
they do not love each other anymore or that they are going to
get a divorce. Often this is not the case. Although parents may
yell and say things that are mean to each other - they often regret
this later on and apologize after they have worked it all out.
How does it affect me?
It is normal for a teen or child
to feel upset when they hear their parents fighting. They may
feel upset, sad, angry at one or both of the parents
or fearful of what the fight may mean. This may end up interfering
with the school work and social activities of the child.
Fighting Is Healthy!
In a happy healthy family fights
occur. Fights are a way for people to let out their feelings and
keep from letting what bothers them stay all bottled up. And in
the end the people fighting usually come to an understanding of
each other and feel closer.
It Can Go to Far
Whenever someone yells, screams
and calls another person names - they are not respecting the other
person. Now, some parents can do these things and resolve their
conflicts and make up after all the bad things understanding that
it was just in the heat of the moment. But, the fighting can start
to go too far. It has gone too far if it gets physical, and if
it is happening too much and the conflicts aren't getting resolved.
This is when the fighting has gone too
far and it is time to get help. Therapists can get involved and
can actually teach people how to with arguments and how to fight.
They can help by teaching family
members to listen to each other and talk about feelings without
yelling and screaming. Though it may take some work, time, and
practice, people in families can always learn to get along better.
But, what if they can't work it out?
Divorce and Separation
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