What to Do if You Can't Get Along
You've given it some time and you've
tried to like your stepmom or stepdad - but you just don't
get along! You can't stop wishing that things were
the way they were before. You need to ask yourself whether what
is wrong is that you don't like the other person, or whether you
don't like the fact that they are not your real parent anymore.
If something is bothering you, it helps to figure out exactly
where the problem is happening, and speak up.
It's not easy sharing your parent
and your home with a stepparent. Don't be afraid to let your real
parent know that you miss them. They'll try to make an effort
to make some time for just the two of you, and they'll also try
to find a way that you can enjoy being with the whole family more.
Try to remember that this new person makes them happy, too.
If you're upset about things around
the house, it's a good idea to have a family meeting. Everyone
has to make compromises - you, your parent, and your stepparent.
But if you just can't seem to
get along with your stepparent no matter what, it's time for a
major heart-to-heart with your parent, and maybe your stepparent,
too. It is important to be careful not ot hurt your step-parents
feelings when you are angry. Instead, explain why you're upset
with your stepparent. Be specific about what the problems are
and why you feel so angry.
You might even go to a family
counselor or therapist. Sometimes someone who doesn't live with
you and knows how families work can help figure out how you can
all get along.
Living With Stepparents