Self esteem is important in all
aspects of our lives - it impacts our success and happiness. Self
image and self-esteem go hand in hand - and self esteem influences
attitudes about what we can do, how we can cope and how to get
along with others.
made up of how we see ourselves and how believe others see us.
Good self-esteem is feeling both loveable and capable. Parent
need to nurture both.
Feeling loveable consists of feeling
loved and worthwhile for who you are, without any conditions.
To help your teen feel this you need to praise unique intrinsic
qualities about them (i.e., their creativeness or persistence).
Feeling capable is feeling strong
and competent, proud of ones ability to achieve things, competent
with life skills.
Here are a few points to remember when parenting with
respect to fostering self-esteem:
* As an adult, you know that every person is unique and special;
your child does not know this. Teach him how and why he is unique.
* Praise is only valuable when it is genuine and descriptive.
Use meaningful praise that describes what you notice, like, or
* When children are allowed to do as many things for themselves
as possible, they feel proud and competent.
Disciplining Your Teen
Rules & Limits
Sex & Relationships
Sex & Knowledge
Talking About Birth
Talking About HIV &
Talking About Self-Image
Talking About Puberty
Drugs & Pre-teens