occurs when a brothers and sisters fight with
each other and don't get along well. Often there is a certain
amount of problems that arise out of one sibling being older that
the other and being able to do more than the younger. Sibling
rivalry is a normal part of any kid or teens life.
The word rivalry involves the
idea of a competition - and that is what most sibling rivalry
is - a competition between the two siblings for their parents
or others attention.
What's Sibling Rivalry?
Sibling rivalry can be a good
thing. Competition is a healthy thing in anyone's lives and rivalry
is common amongst siblings. Everyone experiences feelings of rivalry
and competition. Often rivalry involves arguing. Everyone argues
- adults and children, husbands and wives and even friends. It
is important for you to remember that although you may argue with
your brother or sister you still need to be fair and supportive
Siblings fight for a number of reasons.
* They fight because they want a parent's attention, and the
parent has only so much time, attention and patience to give.
* They fight because they are jealous: "He got a new bike.
I didn't. They must love him more than they love me."
* They fight over ordinary teasing which is a way of testing the
effects of behavior and words on another person: "He called
me..." "But she called me...first."
* They fight because they are growing up in a competitive society
that teaches them that to win is to be better: "I saw it
first." "I beat you to the water."
Teens & Siblings
A Parent's Help