Dealing with Divorce and Separation: A Guide for Teens
Sometimes parents find that they
can no longer live together anymore. This is when separation
and divorce occur. The following is
a description of some of the things that you should expect to
experience when your parents split up.
What is Divorce?
A divorce happens after a husband
and wife decide they can't live together anymore and no longer
want to be married. They agree to sign legal papers that make
them each single again and allow them to marry other people if
Although that may sound simple,
it's not easy for a husband and wife to decide to end a marriage.
Often they spend a long time trying to solve problems before deciding
to divorce. But sometimes, they just can't fix the problems and
decide that a divorce is the best solution.
Sometimes both parents want to divorce, and sometimes one wants
to and the other one doesn't. Usually, both parents are disappointed
that their marriage can't last, even if one wants a divorce more
than the other.
Many kids don't want their parents
to divorce. Some kids have mixed feelings about it, especially
if they knew their parents weren't happy together. Some kids may
even feel relieved when parents divorce, especially if there's
been a lot of fighting between parents during the marriage.
It's really important for kids
to know that just because parents divorce each other, they're
not divorcing their kids. Some kids think that if their parents
are divorcing, it means their moms and dads will want to leave
Although it's true that the kid
of a divorced couple usually lives with only one parent most of
the time, even the parent who lives somewhere else is still that
kid's mom or dad - forever. That will never change.
Divorce and separation
of your parents is very traumatic. For you, it raises many concerns
and perhaps worries about your own sense of security, that, rather
than your parent's future happiness, is important to you. You
* What if they both leave me?
* What is it that I did wrong?
* Did I cause the divorce?
* Now what's going to happen to me?
For many teens,
the divorce of their parents marks a turning point in their lives,
whether it's happened in the past or is currently happening. Divorce
is a serious subject: about half the marriages in the United States
today end in divorce. And although it's troubling to know that
so many couples can't work out their differences, it's important
to remember a few things. You are not alone, and you can deal
It's common for teens to think
that their parents' divorce is somehow their fault, but
nothing could be further from the truth. Some teens may wonder
if they could have helped to prevent the split. Others may wish
they had prevented arguments by cooperating more within the family.
But separation and divorce are a result of a couple's problems
with each other, not with their kids. The decisions adults make
about divorce are their own.
Why do Parents Divorce?
There are many reasons why parents
divorce. They may include serious problems like alcoholism or
abuse, but often couples divorce because they can no
longer live together in harmony. One parent may have changed in
some ways, and the other could not adapt. Some couples may have
simply drifted apart over time. Others find that they no longer
love each other as they once did.
Loss Of Family
A Parent's Change
Tips To Make Divorce
Positive Life After