is where the anus of one partner is penetrated by the other partner
with either a real or fake penis. It can occur between a male
and a female; between two males; and even between two females
using a dildo, vibrator or other artificial penis. We've mentioned
misconceptions before, so we'll offer another one here... many
people seem to think that anal intercourse is something only gay
males do. In truth, many, many male-female couples find anal intercourse
pleasurable, and an exciting variation to their regular sex life.
Some teen male-female couples even prefer anal intercourse because
there is not a risk of pregnancy (there are other risks, however,
as discussed below).
The most thought of negative consequence
to having anal sex is that when done without a condom, it provides
an especially receptive environment and route for passing sexually
transmitted disease, particularly HIV . Even though there
is no risk of pregnancy in anal intercourse, just like vaginal
intercourse, sexually transmitted diseases are a real and serious
possibility. Other negative consequences with anal intercourse
apply to some people and not others, as anal intercourse can be
very painful for some. And for those who do find anal intercourse
painful, they find that it becomes less and less painful the more
it is done, until it is no longer painful at all (quite the opposite).
On the other hand, some find that it is very painful and never
become comfortable with it.
While often painful at first,
many people adapt quickly and find that once that pain subsides,
the act of anal intercourse is extremely pleasureful. It turns
out that the anal canal is full of nerve endings that provide
pleasure, just as does the vaginal canal, and some sex educators
even state that the anal canal is a 'sex organ'.
Many couples (heterosexual and
homosexual) find that the intimacy, closeness and emotional joining
together in anal sex is very similar to vaginal intercourse. Many
couples like the variety and excitement of trying something different,
and, as mentioned before, some young couples practice anal sex
because it is similar to vaginal intercourse, but without the
risk of pregnancy. We don't want to give the impression here,
though, that anal intercourse and vaginal intercourse feel the
same... only that they are similar, especially in the sense of
intimacy and emotion.
As a side note to the girls....
if your guy wants you to try anal sex, we recommend seeing if
he will try it also, and then both try it together! (and if he
won't... you shouldn't feel any pressure or obligation to do it
either!). Who knows, maybe you'll BOTH like it!!
The number one risk to anal intercourse
is the passing of STD's, and the use of a condom is an absolute
must. There is also a small risk of anal bleeding and risk of
passing more common bacterial infections - for fairly obvious
reasons. Washing the anus with a gentle bacterial soap (maybe
with both of you showering or bathing together - an erotic turn-on
by itself!) will help ensure bacterial infection is not a problem
for either partner. The other risk, as mentioned in the negative
consequences, is that most find anal sex painful at first, and
less so later on. It depends on the individual, their bowels,
lubrication (lots of lubrication!!), and how gently and slowly
penetration is done. Again, we cannot emphasize strongly enough
that a condom should always be used in anal intercourse.
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