Oral Sex On a Female
on a female is when one person uses
their lips, mouth and tongue on and around the vulva, the labia,
the clitoris and inside the vagina. The slang term most recognized
is 'eating pussy', or perhaps 'going down', but the correct term
is cunnilingus (cun-i-ling-us). As with oral sex on a male, cunnilingus
can also include using the tongue on and around the anus (called
'analingus') and the area between the vulva and the anus, called
the perinium. Although all parts of the female sexual anatomy
typically respond to the caressing by mouth, lips and tongue,
the part that responds with the strongest feelings is usually
the clitoris (the clit) - though one must be careful - some females
find the clit to be too sensitive for all that attention. A skilled
lover will adapt his or her moves to the partner's needs and preferences,
and will use a variety of techniques.
Performing oral sex requires more
maturity and responsibility than previously discussed sexual behaviors.
Another common misperception is that performing oral sex is not
'sex', and that it is perfectly safe. Both are UNTRUE. However,
performing oral sex carries no risk of pregnancy, and performing
oral sex on a female is safer than having vaginal sex. Additionally,
there has, in the past, been some negative stigma surrounding
the idea of a male performing oral sex on a female, mostly because
it seemed 'unmanly'. But in truth, there is nothing unmasculine
about it, and any male who aims to be a skilled lover needs to
include a variety of ways to bring pleasure to his partner.
There are two specific things
about oral sex on a female that are dangerous. One is that the
mouth comes into immediate contact with the labia and vaginal
canal where an STD
can be directly passed into the soft tissues inside the mouth.
The second risk is where there is immediate contact between the
mouth or tongue and fecal matter (including bacteria) when performing
analingus - though this can be avoided by insuring the area is
thoroughly cleaned before having sex, especially with an antibacterial
Oral sex can be an excellent alternative
to full sexual intercourse, providing it is done safely. The primary
benefits are that of providing pleasure to another person, and
positive self-esteem from knowing that you are focusing on and
giving pleasure to your partner (one step towards making you a
good lover). Additionally, many people find that they enjoy the
act of cunnilingus and feel it is part of a well-rounded, exciting
While performing oral sex for
the first time can be a little intimidating (and some people think
'yucky'), if you really want to overcome your fear or concern
about 'yuckiness', you might try being inventive and doing something
like drizzling your favorite syrup (like chocolate, strawberry,
butterscotch) on the vulva and start by licking it off. Even if
it is the first time performing oral sex, it is most safely done
with a flat piece of latex film sometimes called a dental dam.
That flat piece of latex will prevent any STD from passing between
the two partners. Since the latex film is not always easy to find,
one can also cut open a standard latex or new non-latex condom,
but it needs to be a condom without any spermicide to avoid a
Also keep in mind that oral sex
can (and actually should) involve more than just the genitals.
There are many, many areas on the body that respond with pleasure
when caressed with the lips or tongue.
To avoid getting an STD from performing
oral sex on a female, it is best to do so with a barrier or some
type between the mouth and the genitals, and it is most safely
done with a flat piece of latex film sometimes called a dental
dam. That flat piece of latex will prevent any STD from passing
between the two partners. Also, one should never perform oral
sex on someone known to have an STD,
or where one can see sores or warts anywhere in the genitals region.
If one is going to perform analingus, the best protection is having
the person wash/shower/bathe very thoroughly, preferably with
an antibacterial soap. As with most sexual behaviors, knowing
your partner and their sexual history is also in your favor.
Note: Since the latex film is not always easy
to find, one can also cut open a standard latex or new non-latex
condom, but it needs to be a condom without any spermicide to
avoid a bad taste. Many people find the taste of a latex (rubber)
condom to be unpleasant and avoid using one during oral sex for
that reason. However, condoms have recently gone high-tech and
there are many, many ways to overcome the rubberish taste. One
can now purchase flavored condoms (usually at a condom specialty
store or over the Internet) in dozens of flavors, and the newer
polyurethane (plastic) condoms have virtually no taste at all.
One can also drizzle syrup to overcome the latex taste. The female
condom, called REALITY, can be used in this way, but most find
that it is a very expensive option.
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